A nudge, never a guilt trip.

Around the time you first logged a catch-up. Nudges start at 10 am, and your very first check-in moves them to that time of day, to the nearest half hour and between 8 am and 9 pm, because that’s a time you had a minute for your mates. Pick your own time under Notifications in Settings whenever you like, and the app never moves it again.

Yes. Open a mate’s page, tap their rhythm, and under Nudge at pick Morning, Lunchtime, Evening or a time of your own. Their nudges arrive at that time and everyone else keeps your usual time from Settings. The time is your phone’s time, even for a mate who lives in another time zone.

Yes. Under Notifications in Settings, pick your Nudge Days, or choose Every day, Weekdays or Weekends. A nudge that falls on a day you skipped waits for your next nudge day, at the same time. Birthdays, important dates and plans still arrive on the day itself.

Yes. Hold the mate’s row on Today, tap Snooze and pick “In 2 hours” or “This evening” (7:30 pm, or tomorrow evening once it’s past 7). The nudge comes back at that exact time instead of the next morning. You can also snooze until tomorrow, the weekend, next week or a date you pick, and Wake brings anyone back early.

Yes. In Settings, under Notifications, tap Take a break and pick a week, two weeks, until the new year or a date of your own. Every nudge stops until then, and birthdays still come through unless you turn that off. Today reads calm, with nobody overdue. On the morning you’re back, one notification says who would love to hear from you, and the usual nudges pick up by themselves.

Yes. Turn on One Mate a Day under Notifications in Settings and you get one suggestion a day instead of a reminder for everyone who’s due. High priority mates and whoever has waited longest come first, and everyone else gets their turn on the days after. Birthdays, friendiversaries and important dates still remind you as usual.

Yes. In Settings, then Notifications, under Reminder Voice, pick Gentle (“Ana would love to hear from you”), Mate, the Aussie one (“Give Ana a bell, mate”), or Straight (“Message Ana today”). The lines rotate so you rarely read the same one twice, and every voice is free.

Yes. Turn on “Also put nudges in Reminders” under Notifications in Settings. A Howdy Mate! list in Reminders holds one reminder for each mate due in the next week, so they show on your Apple Watch, your Mac and in Siri. Tick one off and it’s logged as a check-in the next time you open the app, with Undo. The app only reads and writes its own list, never your others.

Yes. Turn off Show Count on App Icon under Notifications in Settings, which also hides the number on the Today tab. The number is how many things are under “Needs you” on Today: mates who are due, plus any birthday or important date that falls today.

Usually because iOS isn’t allowing notifications for Howdy Mate!, often after a “Don’t Allow” on the first day. Today then shows a “Nudges are off” card: tap Turn on and the app asks again, or opens iOS Settings if you said no before. Tap the summary at the top of Settings and a test nudge arrives five seconds later. Rather skip notifications altogether? The same card offers Use Reminders instead.